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Sexual Problems: How to Talk With Your Partner

Overview

Talking with your partner may help your sexual function. Couples often assume that they each know what the other person likes when it comes to sex. Sometimes they are wrong.

  • Don't assume.

    Tell your partner what does and doesn't give you pleasure.

  • Make time outside of the bedroom to talk about your sex life together.

    If you pull away sexually because you are afraid of having sexual problems, your partner may worry that you are no longer interested or that you are involved in another sexual relationship.

    In some cases, you may find that your partner is less concerned about intercourse and is more concerned and interested in foreplay and other forms of sexual satisfaction.

  • Discuss the strong and weak points of the whole relationship.

    It's important to talk about the whole relationship, not just the sexual part. Talk about positive areas, areas of conflict, and areas that need work. Agree on how or if you will both make changes.

  • See a certified therapist if you have trouble talking about sex with your partner.

    A therapist can help you talk to each other.

  • Read books with your partner on sexual health.

Credits

Current as of: February 11, 2021

Author: Healthwise Staff
Medical Review:
E. Gregory Thompson MD - Internal Medicine
Adam Husney MD - Family Medicine
Christopher G. Wood MD, FACS - Urology, Oncology